Perhaps you’ve read the book or watched the movie “The Secret,” and/or familiar with concept of The Law of Attraction, and either having some success but struggling to manifest your deepest desires or no success at all?
I know I used to wonder why I could manifest parking spaces easily enough yet not be able to attract my ideal partner.
The one thing they don’t talk about much in “The Secret” is what I believe is actually the real secret to manifesting your deepest desires….. And that’s believing on a deep cellular level that you deserve it.
When you don’t believe you deserve it, you’ll either never create it in the first place or create it and then go ahead and sabotage it, based on your unconscious limiting beliefs that you don’t deserve it. Can you relate?
I’ve certainly done both. Self worth is a biggie!
There are so many ways we deplete our self esteem and self worth which of course has a massive impact on our ability to create our deepest desires. So I’ve listed a few of those ways below.
DO YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF:
~ Listening to that critical voice that tells you you’re not “enough.” For example: not good enough, clever enough, attractive enough, slim enough etc…..
~ Chastising yourself?
~ Playing the “compare and despair game?”
~ Saying yes to people when you really want to say no? And putting everyone else’s needs first? (Mother’s are great at this one)
~ Buying into other people’s limiting beliefs about your capability of being successful, happy, healthy and fit, achieving your goals etc…?
~ Giving up on your goal or dream after your first few attempts of failing to achieve it?
~ Believing and breathing life into the “story” you keep telling yourself about why you can’t do/be/have whatever it is you really want?
~ Allowing what’s happened in your past to dictate your future?
If you can relate to any of the points above, I think you’ll enjoy my weekly blogs, because in each one we’re going to focus on one or two of the points above. I’ll share with you how to interrupt those disempowering thoughts, beliefs and behaviors once and for all.
And replace them with empowering ones that will have you waking up in the morning bursting with energy and excited about taking charge of your life. Sound good?
I need to warn you, its going to take consistent effort on your behalf, but hey what have you got to lose? Just that negative voice that holds you back and tells you you’re not “good enough” along with the disempowering beliefs and behaviors that are blocking your current ability to manifest your dreams.
By the way do you know everyone has that critical voice? Its what we do with it that makes all the difference. If we let it run the show we’re doomed.
I’ve learnt to interrupt the pattern and re-program it by turning it into my own personal cheer squad, and I’d love to teach you to do the same.
According to the National Science Foundation we have 50,000 thought a day? 24hrs in a day, say we’re awake for 16 hours a day (8hrs asleep) = 3,125 thoughts an hour = approximately 52 thoughts a minute. 95 percent are repetitive and 80 percent are negative.
Pretty scary huh???? However the great news is…….. you can take charge of your thoughts instead of having them take charge of you.
And the first step in interrupting those disempowering thought patterns is actually noticing them.
The second step is interrupting the unconscious pattern and creating new neural pathways in your brain.
Scientists once thought that our brains stopped developing after the first few years of life. However we now know the our brain is constantly changing and evolving. Its called Neuroplasticity. As Dr Norman Doidge says in his book “The Brain that Changes itself” “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”
And that’s GREAT news. Because if every time you have a negative thought, you interrupt the pattern and replace it with a positive one, you’ll be forming new neural pathways in your brain. Just like when you go to the gym and lift weights and your muscles grow stronger, the more you interrupt your negative thought patterns and replace them with a positive one, the thicker and stronger that dendrite will become. So we’re going to have fun creating new neural pathways in your brain!
Here’s a picture of dendrites in the brain creating new neural pathways.
Our brains are powerful beyond our imagination.
So we’re going to have fun creating new neural pathways in your brain!
I use the analogy that if you owned a multi million dollar waterfront property complete with a luxury boat out the front, you wouldn’t rent it out for $50 per week would you?
Well your brain is just like that prime real estate. And allowing negative thoughts to reside there is totally devaluing what you’re truly capable of.
My wish for you, is that after reading this blog you never allow a negative thought to reside in your brain for more than 15 seconds before re-programming it.
And re-programming it can be fun! There are 4 ways. I suggest you try them all and decide what works for you.
1. Change the tone from critical to silly or sultry. Imagine how Donald Duck would sound saying it. I bet it puts a smile on your face?
2. Change the volume. Imagine hitting the mute button or for those of you old enough to remember …lol…reaching up and turning down the volume.
3. Drown it out by saying something like “out of here, I don’t need you anymore.”
4. Add a positive onto the end of the negative. I’ve come up with an acronym called a Y.U.I to help you do that. Just like when you’re driving and do a U turn, it will take your thought process in a totally different direction, just by adding one of these three words onto the end of the negative sentence.
For me I had the most success combining #3 and #4. But as I said before, try all four and see what works best for you.
Some people say ‘oh affirmations don’t work” which of course is an affirmation in itself……..lol!
We’re always affirming something, so why not take control and start affirming good things? I dare you to give it a go an see what happens.
Before I open my eyes each morning I say my affirmations. And then I meditate. And visualize myself having a super productive and fun filled day. Of course not every day goes according to plan, but when unexpected stuff happens, I’m in a much better emotional state to deal with it, than if I were to wake up groaning and complaining about life.
Believe me when I say I had a very vocal “inner critic.” 28 years ago I was suicidal and my inner critic was having a field day, chastising me for not being able to organize my own suicide properly.
Thankfully two of my beautiful performing arts students parents were there for me in my darkest hour. The moment I chose life I decided I’d never allow anyone to rob me of my self esteem ever again…..and that’s when the real work began. I immersed myself in learning everything I could about self esteem, self worth, confidence and human potential. And ironically as is often the case, my biggest nightmare/darkest moment turned out to be my “biggest gift” and set me off on a trajectory to be doing what I do in the world today.
I know first hand how empowering it is when you can take charge of your thoughts and emotions. Which is why I’m so committed in helping you do the same.
I’d love to gift you with a FREE copy of my “31 Day Become your #1 Fan Affirmation Series.” Its a Video Series along with posters you can download and a PDF on what affirmations are, and how they work.
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Once you start interrupting and re-programming your negative self talk and starting your day with affirmations, you’ll be weeding your garden, and planting new seeds to rebuild your self esteem and self worth.
So what are you waiting for?
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And please stay in touch. Comment below and keep an eye out for my next blog where I’ll address some of the other ways we deplete our self esteem and self worth; and what to do instead!
By the way, who we hang out with we become. So please feel free to share this Blog with your friends and/or family. Having them come on the journey with you you’ll be creating a support network for each other.
Here’s to becoming your #1 fan and manifesting your deepest desires………